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When someone we care deeply about experiences a severe mental health episode that necessitates hospitalization, it can be an incredibly challenging time for both the individual and their loved ones. After being discharged, the initial weeks can often feel overwhelming and tumultuous. The individual, while physically present and surrounded by caring friends and family, may still be struggling with an array of complex emotions and memories related to their hospitalization. Despite the difficulties of these early days, there is a glimmer of hope. The person has made the courageous decision to commit to the various treatment interventions recommended by their healthcare providers. Slowly but surely, with the steadfast support of their loved ones, they begin to see signs of improvement.

As the weeks progress, the individual might start to experience a shift in their emotional landscape. They may find themselves not just healing but also filled with a burgeoning sense of potential ideas springing forth about creating a new path for their future that excites them. This newfound mindset is crucial, as it underscores the resilience and hope that can emerge even in the face of profound difficulties. However, as much as their loved ones may rejoice in these moments of positive change, it is essential to recognize and empathize with the hard work required for recovery. This healing process is often far from linear and can involve persistent daily struggles with mental health issues that may take time to navigate.

For those who stand beside this individual, spouses, partners, family members, or friends, it’s important to approach the situation with an understanding of the complexities involved. While it can be heartening to witness the efforts of a loved one striving to move forward, it’s equally vital to understand that the journey of healing is a gradual process, often characterized by ups and downs. The temptation to guide or push the individual toward what might seem like the best options for reintegrating into society can be strong. However, it’s crucial to recognize that imposing well-meaning intentions or assumptions can inadvertently add undue stress or pressure to their recovery.

Instead, the most meaningful gift a loved one can provide is unwavering support. This support should come in the form of active listening, creating a space where the individual feels safe to express their thoughts, worries, and aspirations without fear of judgment. By standing as a compassionate ally, loved ones can help navigate the complex emotional landscape while avoiding potential triggers or situations that could lead to feelings of relapse or regressing into a state of distress.

Moreover, loved ones must remain mindful that certain mental health conditions may not have a defined “cure.” Healing often involves learning how to manage symptoms effectively and build a fulfilling life within the parameters of those challenges. This realization can sometimes be difficult, but recognizing this can foster an atmosphere of patience and understanding, allowing both the individual and their support system to cultivate a realistic vision for the future.

Ultimately, the journey toward recovery can be seen as both a personal and collective endeavor. With the love, support, and active participation of those around them, a loved one navigating the complexities of their mental health can find a path toward healing. Each step taken, no matter how small, is a victory, and the promise of a brighter future begins to take shape as both the individual and their loved ones walk this path together.

A Reflection of the Soul.

Does love feel different each time we experience it with different people in our lives? Does it carry the same weight for family, friends, pets, or even strangers who leave lasting imprints on our hearts? Some define love through material wealth, security, presence, or existence. But is love meant to be measured? Does it require conditions, or is it the one thing meant to flow freely—unburdened, limitless, and whole?

As we navigate life, we realize that love, in all its forms, is universal. No matter our background, culture, or experiences, we all long for love, endure heartbreak, and seek meaning in the connections we form. And yet, how we define love varies: Is it the act of forgiving over and over again? Is it reliving past mistakes or holding them against someone? Does love mean ownership—claiming parts of another as if their being belongs to us? Or does love flourish when we remove expectations and simply allow it to exist?

Love, for all its beauty, can come with fear—the fear of surrendering, of being seen, of opening the doors we locked shut to protect ourselves from past storms. If we have ever loved, truly loved, we know that love is not always easy. It is raw. It is vulnerable. It asks us to risk our hearts for something we cannot control. But perhaps love is not meant to be controlled. Perhaps love is a choice—to embrace, to nurture, to give without demand.

And at its foundation, love begins within. It starts with how we see ourselves and how we treat the reflection staring back at us. Can we honestly say we love ourselves? Do we love our flaws as much as our strengths? Do we appreciate the effort we put into each day, even when no one is watching? True love is not just found in another person—it is discovered in the way we honor ourselves.

So when you look in the mirror, remember this: You are the only you in this world. You were given this life with a purpose. You are meant to shine, to feel, to grow, to be. Your presence matters. The energy you bring into the world is uniquely yours, and the love you give—whether to yourself or to others—leaves an impact far beyond what you can see.

There will be days when you feel alone, unloved, unseen. But love is always there. It lives in the quiet moments, in the spaces between words, in the embrace of a friend, in the kindness of a stranger, in the resilience of your own heart.

You are not alone.

You are loved.

And most importantly—

You are loved.

First, embrace determination; tackle obstacles with enthusiasm and the belief that you will prevail; giving up isn’t an option. Next, seek motivation by looking beyond your everyday tasks to identify growth opportunities. Keep your eyes on the end goal, establish minor objectives for yourself, and take time each day to reflect on your achievements, rewarding yourself for your creativity and sustained effort. Finally, pause to assess your life, recognize your personal growth, and your commitment to achieving balance. Be thankful for your mind and acknowledge your progress along with the supportive influences around you. After work, strive to connect with others, express affection, and remember that your life holds purpose. Regardless of the obstacles, they should not restrict your ability to enact positive changes in your life. 

The question we often face is whether we should change or improve to align with the standards and ideals set by others. Throughout my journey, I’ve come to realize that while I may not fully transform myself, I can certainly work on enhancing certain aspects to foster connections with others and share my true personality. I believe that experiences and exposure to our environments may help to shape our personalities.

When confronted with challenges, setbacks, or even positive changes, my personality has adapted to these situations. This adaptability gives me the power to either welcome change or close myself off from new possibilities. At what point do we embrace who we are while also remaining open to actively listening and viewing things from perspectives beyond our own?

I believe this awakening begins each new day with a commitment to being open and engaging with our surroundings rather than letting them dictate our responses. By paying attention to our thoughts and also considering others’ views, we can question how these perspectives can enrich our lives or those of our friends. For our mental peace, it may not be beneficial to absorb everything, but we can gradually open ourselves to learning how to connect and improve who we are genuinely.

Though we may never completely change, evolution, time, and the start of each new day provide us the opportunity to rise again, determined to be better and more attuned to the lessons of yesterday. Let’s embrace this journey of growth, cultivate our strengths, and welcome new experiences with open hearts. 

Cher xoxo